First Date No-Nos: Topics to Avoid Discussing with Your Match

First dates can be exciting and full of promise, but they can also be treacherous ground when it comes to conversation topics.  I've seen my fair share of successful and not-so-successful first dates. One key to making a great first impression is knowing what topics to avoid discussing. Here are some crucial subjects to steer clear of in those initial meetings:

Exes:

   - It's a cardinal rule of first dates: Avoid discussing your past relationships, especially any negative aspects. No one wants to hear about your exes and their flaws on a first date. It can come across as a lack of emotional readiness or as if you're not fully invested in the present moment.

Traumas:

   - While it's important to be open about your life experiences with a partner, sharing the most traumatic events from your past on a first date is generally discouraged. Save these deep conversations for more established and safe relationships. Oversharing too soon can be overwhelming and potentially inappropriate.

Dating Experience:

   - Telling your date about your dating experiences can be a tricky balancing act. If you're doing well on dating apps, your date might wonder why you're still looking. On the other hand, if you're sharing negative dating stories or criticizing past dates, you could come across as unsympathetic or pessimistic. It's best to keep this topic light or avoid it altogether.

Health Issues:

   - Health issues are a sensitive and personal topic that should be discussed gradually as your relationship deepens. Sharing your medical history or health concerns on a first date might make your date feel uncomfortable or unequipped to handle such information.

Long-Term Goals:

   - While it's fine to lightly touch on long-term goals to ensure you're on the same page, diving into extreme detail can be a turn-off. If your date feels that you're simply looking for someone to fit a predetermined role in your future dreams, it can make the relationship seem less collaborative and more like a job interview.

Finances:

   - Discussions about income and finances are best saved for later in the relationship. Sharing how much you make on a first date can come off as inappropriate and can set an awkward tone. The early stages of dating are about getting to know each other's personalities, interests, and values, not financial details.

Navigating the delicate balance of a first date can be both exciting and challenging. Understanding what topics to avoid discussing is vital to creating a positive and engaging first impression. Remember that the early stages of dating are about building a connection, having fun, and getting to know each other on a personal level. 

Xo

your matchmaker,

Danielle Victoriah